We finally got "the call" yesterday afternoon. I was so excited!!! It is very rare to get pictures prior to travel in Moscow, but we were sent photos of a baby due to her having some issues. We started to fall in love immediately and thought that the "issues" were not a big deal. I sent the photos to our International Adoption Doctor. We didn't have a medical report, just pictures and a couple facts. They reviewed and got back to us with a negative report. I don't want to go into too much detail, but we decided that she wasn't the baby for our family. We need to think about the boys and how their lives could be affected. We talked all night and I cried all night, but feel comfortable with our decision. I told our agency this morning and she assured us we are still next on the list for a little girl.
But then she told us about the DOE (the people who place children in homes) shutting down June through August. So that leaves us with a couple weeks room to get a new referral or we will have to wait until September. I can't even believe this is happening. I think I've run out of tears ...probably not :)
We have watched so many families come home with beautiful, healthy babies. I feel so sad that we waited so long for a referral and it wasn't what we expected.
Please say a prayer for us that a miracle happens..soon!!! Enjoy this beautiful weather!
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Oh I know how heart wrenching it is to wait so long and then have to say no. We had to decline a referral before we received Daria's referral.
I pray that you'll get a new referral very quickly and that she'll be the perfect fit!
Hey Jeanette, I've been on the phone with Angie lots over the last day + and I am heart broken for you both...
hoping for some movement for you both. I also declined a referral before Tatiana -- and mine was in country. it's very hard to look at their pictures and not fall in love... but your little girl will be home soon!
We're all sad for you. But don't lose hope, she'll be coming home with you soon.
How heartbreaking! As difficult as it must be to reject a referral, it would be much more difficlut to accept one that isn't the right fit for your family. I hope that you don't end up having to wait until September. I'll be thinking of you and your family (including your daughter) and hoping that you find eachother very soon.
Being new to the process, my husband and I have learned so much from reading other families' blogs. Thank you for keeping us updated.
Big Hugs and lots of prayers being sent up!
God Bless,
Angie
You guys have such big hearts, and I know how anxious you are to open them to a little girl. Like Clarese said, it wasn't the right fit for the family. I will keep you in my prayers and hope that you will get some good news soon. We love you guys!
sorry to hear this! well last year i thought i was going to adopt a little girl, then i lost her. then i was offered another girl but thought she had classic FAS symptoms and the agency agreed! (so then whey were they trying to refer her to me?!). now our referral is not what i had pictured... we will see how it goes! not to mention being in the VN shutdown :{ it's tough, but i believe all these things happen for a reason!!
Hi Jeanette,
I am so sorry to hear about this turn of events. I completely know this feeling and am so sad for you. I wish there were some magical words to make you feel better but I know there aren't any. I truly hope and pray that you and the other families waiting for a referral get some GOOD news very soon. I will be thinking of you and wish you peace through this time. Feel free to contact me if you want. lpaknight at gmail dot com.
Laura
Hi - I just found your blog. We are currently waiting for a referral. So sorry about the referral and the DOE issue. We had to decline a referral during our last adoption and I know the emotions that go along with it. I will be praying for your referral and peace for your family.
Kim
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